In his book: “Falling Upward”, Fr. Rohr writes:

“I realized that many people loved and admired me for who I was not, and many people also resented or rejected me for who I was not. Conversely, many loved me for who I really was, warts and all, and this was the only love that ever redeemed me.

Many others rightly criticized me for who I really was, and revealed to me my shadow, which was always painful but often very helpful.
But in all cases, it became apparent that their responses said much more about them and the good or bad quality of their own mirroring than about me at all.

Good people will mirror goodness in us, which is why we love them so much.
It is only those who respond to the real you, good or bad, that help you in the long run.”

Art:
‘Aura’ by Bjorn van den Berg
‘Sky Mirror’ by Anish Kapoor